LIE: My Tears Reveal My Weakness

I am a crier—and I’m not talking a cute crier…. I am an ugly crier—a snotty, sniffly, can’t talk crier.  I am not the “cries at weddings and touching movies” kind of crier. I am a “cries at the most inappropriate and inconvenient times” kind of crier. It is something I have wrestled with my…

Freedom Tool: Vulnerability

On retreat recently I started digging into a great book by Andy Crouch called Strong to Weak. In it, he speaks about the concept of “human flourishing” which is basically a synonym for what I refer to as soaring; being “fully alive.” And the summary of his findings and the thesis of the book is…

The Lie: “Fun is Indulgent”

We have no problem understanding that kids need to have fun and so we do everything we can to foster that in them. We buy them great toys and take them on great adventures. We enroll them in clubs and get them on teams. We encourage their imagination and give them hours to just go…

“Un”Healthy Relationships

The other day in my blogging group, a member shared a personal story about the toxic relationship she shares with her father and stepmother. According to her, her father has been emotionally, mentally and physically abusive her entire life. Despite this abuse, she moved in next door to him to take care of him and…

Freedom Tool: Community

I have always loved elephants. The beauty. The power. The uniqueness. But my love for elephants grew even more when I learned more about their social habits. Here are some fun facts about the social and emotional nature of elephants: They are unique among wild animals in that they form strong social bonds of companionship,…

The “Un’s” that Enslave Us

When I was a kid, I hated reading. I really did. It was to the point that my parents had to bribe me with money to finish a book; that my mom would let me read trashy romance novels as a teenager just so I would read something! I was always much happier playing with…

Did You Know Your Shackles Are Gone?

Many years ago, my husband and I were in Germany visiting my sister. One day, after admiring various animals at the Berlin Zoo, we found ourselves at the polar bear habitat. There were two or maybe three bears, but one clearly stood out. He was standing on a ledge looking out at us. While the…